some realizations...

I’m coming to realize one important thing about people. Maybe it’s not true, just another of my weird theories, but it seems to be working down here.

First of all, we came to a conclusion that we are living like in the reality show here, something like Big Brother, because in a short period of time you get to know some people quite deeply. In five weeks you know a person as good as you would in minimum five months “in a normal environment”… It’s an intersting thought:)

Now the theory. It’s all about substitutions. People are coming and going, substituting each other. One party person leaves, another one comes. One quiet person is replaced by another. In a way it’s like the tro tro system that works remarkably well here: the tro tro stops at the bus stop two people leave – exactly two people enter, in another stop three people leave and exactly three people enter. Have no idea how it happens, but it works:)

Another part of the theory that I thought of only yesterday. The substitution theory works not only with people in general. I think it works with friends as well. We all define the set of qualities we are looking for in friends and keep looking for the people with those qualities. Sometimes one person can have it all, I guess that would be the definition of the best friend. Sometimes you need to find different people with different qualities to make it work. Sometimes these people change for one reason or another. Sometimes you realize that the qualities you cherished so in one person, can be found in another as well – so the first can be substituded with the other… I know it sounds a bit harsh and I wouldn’t apply this to those long term friends, that you have a very strong bond with, that is no more about the qualities the person has. But down here, in short term, I think that’s really how it works. Makes it easier to part with some people, because you know that you can look for a substitution.

And of course, there are people who can never be replaced. People when they go they go and an empty spot in your heart stays forever. You just learn to live with it... Somehow… I don’t know if I could do that and, honestly, don’t want to find out.

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Not to finish with this note, let me tell you a joke from yesterday. I really loved it:) We were at Smoothy’s (again:p), I had hot cappucino and Martin took cold cappucino. When I tried his, I decided, that I prefered the hot one and Martin said: “For a hot girl – hot cappucino, for a cool guy – cool cappucino”:))) I just think it would be a very good pick up line:D (for the record – Martin has a lovely girlfriend and me, well, you know;)).